Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

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People who had parents who were obviously neglectful or abusive probably realize that they have to work through some complex childhood trauma.

Their children feel evaluated constantly, have trouble with either initiative or self-control, are often unmotivated and depressed, resist connecting with potential mentors, and always feel they should be doing more or something different. Anxiety and depression: The emotional turbulence and neglect experienced can predispose the child to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues.Emotionally immature parents expect the child to be the adult, expecting attentiveness and comfort from the child. He left home at 17 to join the airforce, got a business degree, and swore to be the complete opposite of his family. Observing another’s maturity level helps you determine the level of connection you can expect and keeps you safe.

They are emotionally reactive: Emotionally immature people are sensitive and don’t deal with stress well. You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice. Gibson exposes an often overlooked, yet extremely common syndrome that shapes the lives of so many people. This can obstruct the child’s emotional growth and development, sometimes leading to codependence or other relationship difficulties. They aren't doing too much work in their relationships, because they keep their relationships entirely at an emotionally superficial level.Growing up with emotionally immature (EI) parents can leave you feeling emotionally lonely and full of self-doubt. As a child, your emotional needs were not met, your feelings were dismissed, and you likely took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. They can also feel guilty for being unhappy, have a hard time trusting their instincts, and lack self-confidence. I didn't feel that I was getting only a look at "this is what happened to these adults" but rather a continuum of the effects of emotional immaturity in all stages, including the ability to reflect on my own life and emotional maturity as a parent and how it may affect my children.